I can only imagine the kind of future we'd have if all the young queers I know who want to start communes didn't have to slave away for decades to have a possibility of maybe getting the land they need and instead were able to start experimenting with models to make the communities work and practicing their skills growing food and making high quality artisan goods.
how do i change the shortcode of custom emoji?
kink meta, d/s //
I run into this assumption, I think, although rarely stated as such, that there's such a thing as "big dom energy", and that relative amounts of this determine who tops and who bottoms when two people on the dom <--> switch <--> sub scale meet. This energy is largely independent of relationships, coming from internal states like self-confidence, strength of desire, and swagger.
and man is that not how this works. yeah, you need a certain amount of self-respect to do kink safely, and a certain amount of bravado to think you're worth playing with, top or bottom. but beyond that, increasing your opinion of yourself doesn't make you more impressive as a top, doesn't enable you to dominate switches closer and closer to the dom end of the scale. it's like trying to get the lead role in a play by reading your lines more loudly.
At its worst, a "race to the top" pushes everyone into the toxic masculinity corner where no one is allowed to admit being less that 100% dominant 100% of the time in all aspects life.
there's a bunch of other factors that fall in the general category "not everyone is going to want to play with everyone else, and that's okay" but the one that's closest to how people think "big dom energy" should work, is *skill.*
Person A may be twice as "dominant" as person B in some abstract sense, but it doesn't mean that A has the skills to get inside B's head, or that B doesn't know how to push A's buttons. It doesn't mean that A is better at pacing a scene, or setting a mood. It doesn't mean that A's exploits and experience are more worthy of respect than B's.
there's a corresponding thing for subs, of course. and maybe I'm misreading people's posturing as "the dommiest dom ever" or "the subbiest sub ever" as a dominance move when it's really just more fun to project a more extreme persona or s/t.
Hey folks! I have friends in some pretty serious need, and life has been piling on in a “wait what” sort of way. They need house repairs, car repairs, computer repairs, and body repairs, all in short order. If you could throw them a few bucks or boost the signal it would mean a lot.
self promo, please boost if you can
i have a patreon *and* a ko-fi now! i havent figured everything out yet in terms of rewards/membership tiers and all that for the patreon but i have the page up now and i will continue to update it over the next couple weeks.
Gentle reminder after a long talk:
The request for a CW is best accompanied by a CW of its own, and respect for an "I cannot hold to this; please don't follow this account."
We all have things we talk about that at one point we could not. Consider that you may be adding an extra barrier to things that the poster fought to learn to express extemporaneously. Respect comes from both sides on such things. We much each set our own limits. Sometimes that means a blanket profile CW and speaking freely.
I've decided to offer myself up as a voice coach for trans people who need it free/cheap.
No matter what you desire to work towards, you come to me as a friend I would like to help be comfy. Whether that be feminising, masculinising, or a voice made of various different elements :)
We will do exercises, talk about posture, be hydrated, apply it to real life, and I promise to tailor things to meet your needs.
I will do this over discord. DM me if you fancy this.
ok had a pretty cute dream from all that affection yesterday
was lying on a couch, holding and petting one cat, while our other cat is looking at me
she jumps across the room onto my shoulder, searches for space on me, and finally decides to lie down on my face (aaaaa gosh so soff and fluffy )
also she's a black cat but she smelled white?
legendary bearer of 7 names
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