Privater Deme Boundaries
This account is mostly for close(r) friends, partners, metamours etc and so most of what I put here is either venting, gushing, or personal life stuff.
As such please assume I don't want anything without a boost button talked about outside of this account.
Other than that, if I added you here I like/trust you and don't anticipate needing to set a lotta account specific-boundaries but will update as necessary 💜
Sometimes, even as my body falls apart, I feel like maybe if I just pushed harder I can still do everything like an able bodied person
What kinda horrible dystopia do we live in where subtle prodding can make me question if someone who has spoken to me once & is paid to have a bias against my interests actually knows more about my body than me?
Meta, abusers
When you don't think about someone for a long time and then you see their name
And it feels like a silly thing
Until you're still thinking about them an hour later, the mutual folks that might be in your life, the pain they might cause them, and
Realize the impact they've had on you is much deeper than you're comfortable with
Ace Feel 3
This isn't anything that's happening to me, but it's something I see happening in other ace folks relationships a lot and I always wonder how they're being treated in private
Even if it's only a public thing, the dynamics I mentioned still are there so it's very... It feels indicative of resentments that are kinda uncomfy
Ace Feel 2
I think like, making posts like this sometimes can be okay, but if that's all you ever say about them it feels like a subtle attempt to get them to have more sex with you
The first ones are obvious "my partner isn't having sex with me enough :c" kinda
But I assume the latter are positive reinforcement, the only nice things I say are when they've fucked me and focus on the parts I like so the only way they can get me to be affectionate is to fuck me again
Ace Feel 1
I know I've said it before but
Ace/Allo couples where the allo partner only ever makes sexual posts about their partner make me uncomfortable
This is true regardless of if the format is:
[Partner] is so hot, we did [whatever]
Or
I love my partner but I just want to have sex all the time and [polite variation on they won't] so who will?
Or
I love when [Partner] does [whatever]
Or
[Partner's whatever] is so sexy
Fuck this reminds me I need to update *MY* map*
*my map shows and categorizes all the food I like/dislike in my town UwU
US Pol, bitter
Imagine if we didn't have a political system where someone could pull in power by refusing to retire at a proper time, which they then use to market themselves for over a decade building up a legacy and wealth at the expense of terrifying a solid chunk of the nation's population in the process while also somehow get lauded for it
Food Distribution Rant 4
Just like, imagine if apartment complexes did anything to foster and empower the communities they build in ways that actually make the residents' lives better
Food Distribution Rant 3
The complex could partner with local farmers & food producers, and create more direct systems of food procurement for the residents in bulk, which the residents then benefit from in that they can fresher produce more often, without just keeping it until it spoils
A greater control in procurement is possible this way, and more flexibility on what to do with excess produce can be decided at a community level, or at least by someone not profiting off food & food waste
Account for close friends/partners -- mostly a join if invited thing, but if we've DMed for more than a couple days I'll probs accept :3
Expect venting :3