Hey y'all I'm gonna strongly recommend that when you date or make friends with someone that you uh
Listen to them, watch them, learn who they are and take joy in that process
I see so many people trying to find someone who matches their idea of who they want to date, and then learn a little bit and make up the rest
And when it turns out that the rest of their partner doesn't match the made up person, they get scared or angry or resentful
I love learning new things about a person??
Do that
Also I've met a lot of people who are like
Surprised and delighted or sometimes alarmed when I do this
Like their only experience of friendship is through the lens of trying to meet the expectations put on them, live up to standards that they have to guess at
People who apologize for liking things that they expect I won't think are cool
People apologize a lot for being themselves, especially trans people
Our survival can depend on meeting other people's expectations